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This was an eye-opening read. I’m sorry you have to cope with so much pain and lasting damage. Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope these devices get restricted to limited medical use under physician supervision.

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This is a great article!! I've been thinking lately about how binding forces people to pursue surgery because of the discomfort. Once they latch onto the idea that they need a flat chest, and their options are bind every day until they die or get surgery, the path to surgery becomes the obvious goal.

This actually made me get out all my sports bras and binders to see the difference they make in terms of how flat they make my chest and how natural each one looks (or not). I haven't worn a sports bra or binder in 10 years (free-boobin' yeahhh!) and only wear a sports bra when I work out, but as you know, my idea of binding was wearing a loose loose loose garment at least 3 sizes bigger than recommended so it's got the same snug fit as a sports bra. I tried binding tightly once and couldn't continue. After free-boobin' for a decade... I can't even stand the binders that are loose. They're too thick and feel cumbersome even though they aren't tight. I'd last 5 minutes. It's worse than wearing a wetsuit. I can't even stand wearing a super thin ultra-stretchy sports bra!! I still have a Frog Bra and oh my lord I cannot even get it on and I'm 100lbs lighter than I was when I was wearing it.

Oh and to people who say you don't count as a detransitioner because all you did was bind... that pisses me off lol you actually lived as a male and blended in as a male, in another country nonetheless... that's lived experience, you don't need hormones or surgery to have that experience. And it doesn't matter how long it lasted.

A large chunk of these new FTMs who have had surgery and are on hormones don't pass at all and despite their body modifications and self-perception, they've never experienced being treated as a male. They have a "trans identity" but no experience being treated as a male, so what is there to detransition from?? Some people just love to dismiss other people's experiences and that's too bad. You're a strong voice in this community and it just shows that those people are likely in this for the wrong reasons, otherwise they'd see you as an ally.

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