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Julie Dee's avatar

This is an informative and considered piece of work written with such wisdom. I appreciate it.

Because you have been through this, your words speak to the heart, it’s not some hollow platitudes nor cold commands. Certainly when I was first finding out about autism (son is autistic), I gained most knowledge from autistic people themselves as opposed to ‘professionals’. It is the same with trans stuff. This is why your post is needed.

Lots of nuggets here and whatever someone’s take on the issue, the value of fostering understanding and empathy can never be downplayed.

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Maia Poet's avatar

I am so glad you found my essay to be helpful! Your idea to get information about autism from autistic people over the professionals was a smart move!

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

Excellent essay! Thank you, Maia. I This really checks out, as I wrote on the topic from my perspective as a mom a while ago. https://www.pittparents.com/p/responsibility-vs-fault

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Maia Poet's avatar

Just read it- the piece is spot on!

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Maia Poet's avatar

I’m so excited to read this!

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Sarah Elizabeth Gregory's avatar

Wow, Maia. So much to unpack here. We’ve discussed some of this, but I got a lot out of seeing this format and the order in which you placed each major point. It’s given me ideas. And Mouse continues to improve. As always, keep doing what you’re doing. I think the world of you.

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Maia Poet's avatar

I’m so glad this has been helpful!

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Enid Baxter Ryce's avatar

Beautiful work, Maia. I’m so amazed by you.

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Maia Poet's avatar

Thank you. Likewise :)

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Frogmom's avatar

Always great food for thought. Thank you for sharing your views on this. I especially appreciate not trying to place the blame for this on any one thing, but to see the individual your child is and help them cope with their needs.

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Maia Poet's avatar

Because that’s what is going on!

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Ruth's avatar

Dear Maia!

Thank you for your essay and the photos, especially the one at the Kotel. It's a bit ironic - this perfect "passing". Your piece is addressed to the parents of kids and teens.

My husband's daughter is already 21, which means legally adult and somewhat independent, and has started on testosterone. It's been I think something like 2 or 3 weeks. What would you add or change, if anything, if you were writing to us, the parents of young adults?

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Maia Poet's avatar

The relationship changes for parents of young adult kids. I’d need to know far more information about the situation to make specific suggestions because each of these situations are so complicated. Feel free to reach out via DM

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